In certain circumstances, the following facial expression can be quite potent and help you achieve your goals be they professional, social, or romantic. As an example, I’ll take the latter because it’s a personal
story of how Little Trick #2 helped me “take the tumble.” I was on a cruise ship called the Homeric. One night, I and a group of other fawning passengers were invited to sit at the captain’s table. While someone else was speaking, I happened to see Captain Accornero’s face. He was looking at me and—
BLAM!—his expression made me want to be a blob of putty in his hands. His head was tilted, his brow was furrowed, and he was looking at me intently with slightly squinted eyes. Th expression gave his face an intensity, as though he were searching for something. Giorgio seemed to be assessing me, judging me. It gave him a superior demeanor. I felt like a Roman gladiator praying for the thumbs-up from the emperor. But, I must admit, I liked it. When Giorgio’s lips softened into a smile, it was as though he had saved me from the lions.
Sadly, months later after we started dating, I realized Giorgio was not using the scrutinizing expression as a “capture Leil” technique, although it unquestionably achieved that goal. Th e reason for his searching look was that, as a ship’s captain, he spends many nights on the ship’s bridge searching for signs of other vessels through dense fog. Th at’s why I call this Little Trick “Searching Eyes.”
First let me tell you how to make the expression, and then I’ll share some suggestions on where and why to use it.
How Do You Make Searching Eyes?
Imagine yourself driving on a winding country road in a sparsely populated part of the country. Th e night is inky black—no moon, no street lights. Suddenly, a dense fog encircles you and your car stalls. You pray there is a house in the distance so you can call for help. You get out of the car, squint your eyes, and search intently through the thick fog for any sign of light. You have now have executed Step One of Searching Eyes. Step Two: Finally you see the distant headlights of a car coming your way. At last, help. Your face relaxes and a slight
smile softens your lips. The first phase of the expression gives people the impression that you are evaluating them—not in an unfriendly way, but thoughtfully. Th en, when they see the second phase, they will interpret your expression as contemplative acceptance. Th ere fore, they value it all the more.
How to Use It in Business
Searching Eyes is an effective tool in the corporate world. It demonstrates contemplation behind your final approval of an individual or even of an idea someone has just presented. It puts you in the superior position of evaluating them. Hold the expression for as long or as short as the situation demands.
Women, because people sometimes view us as too accommodating, this Little Trick is an especially powerful professional tool for us. It combats that weaker image and makes you appear more authoritative. Resolve to use it in certain situations, most particularly when dealing with old-style sexist
male managers.
How to Use It Socially
When you are meeting potential friends, definitely tone down the first phase of the expression to just a flicker. However, showing a brief second of Searching Eyes before your warm “hello” makes you look more heartfelt and genuine. After that, be sure to keep good eye-friendly contact when communicating
with that person.
How to Use It for Romance
Gentlemen, Searching Eyes unquestionably has an interesting effect on women—as you’ve seen from my experience with the captain. When used appropriately, it can to make her anxious to win your approval. Conversely, women, if you plan to use Searching Eyes on a potential romantic partner, tread gently. Most men fear rejection and will interpret it as such. Make Step One exceedingly brief before granting him your smile of acceptance.
Little Trick #2
“Assess” Them with Searching Eyes
Whenever you deem it appropriate—whether you are judging an idea, a business proposal, or a person— momentarily give a slight scrutinizing expression.Then, if and when you are ready to seal the deal or
win their warmth, morph it into a slight smile of acceptance. They now feel they have “won” your
approval.
Of course, to make them feel that your approval is, indeed, a prize they’ve won, you must come across as a confident individual,someone who is confident in his or her own skin. Here’s how to prepare for that—before you even meet them!
